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40 Beauty Questions Answered

40 Beauty Questions Answered
-How many times do you wash your face daily? Morning and night - in the a.m. I use a duo-acid cleanser and at night I scrub everything off with a green tea enzyme powder wash. 
-What skin type do you have? (dry,oily,combo) Definitely combination, but it veers to the oily side during the summer months.
-What is your current facial wash? Both of my facial cleansers are from Wishtrend.
-Do you exfoliate? About one or twice a week I use chemical exfoliant serums.
-What brand do you use? My favorite is from a Korean company called dear Klairs
-What moisturizer do you use? I used a combination moisturizer and SPF cream from dear Klairs.
-Do you have freckles? None that I can detect with my naked eye.
-Do you use eye cream? The dark circles under my eyes are both a result of poor sleep and genetics, so I use an eye serum and an eye butter combo from Wishtrend. Both have caffeine to wake up the eyes.
-Do you or did you have acne prone skin? Not really. I do get the one of…
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